I was going thru some old photos and came across this picture of Mark after one of his squirrel hunting trips. It reminded me of my Grandma and how she had lots of squirrels in her backyard. There was one squirrel that she would feed out of her hand that she named Foxy. When my sister and I were younger we would call Foxy out from hiding and he would come and eat.
My Grandma was born in 1909 and grew up on a farm in Kentucky with two brothers. When we were growing up we spent a lot of time at my Grandma’s house. My sister and I would spend Saturday nights there so we could go to church on Sundays. My Grandma was always properly dressed in suits or dresses, got her hair done every other week and never went out of the house without makeup on. She was a very proper lady yet was still doing yard work, cleaning out her gutters and painting her house up into her 70’s. The neighbors had strict orders to call my Mom if they caught her.
After Mark and I were married and he was off on one of his squirrel hunts he called to let me know he had a few squirrels for my Grandma. I was unaware of this arrangement and I was in disbelief why she wanted them. When it comes to certain hunting issues I always seem to ask Mark to repeat himself. This was one of those times. He very slowly and clearly said “Your Grandma is going to cook them and eat them.” In the defense of Foxy I said very clearly ”No she isn’t.” When things go wrong or bad or I feel like complaining, I call my Mother. So I call my Mom to ask what my Grandma was doing with squirrels. She confirmed … the frying of Foxy.
I was mortified. This was the proper lady that dresses up everyday and goes to church and feeds Foxy out of her hand and she is going to flour him, salt & pepper him and fry him up. I called my Grandma and firmly stated ”You are not frying Foxy!” She said “Well I am.” I said in my begging bratty tone “You can’t, that is Foxy and if you do that I won’t go to church with you anymore.”
My Grandma was a strong, independent woman that lived up until a month before her 97th birthday. She survived the tragic death of her first husband, took care of her second husband, who in his latter years suffered from Alzheimer’s and she was a breast cancer survivor. She had seen many historic events in her 96 years of life.
I had always perceived her to be a “proper lady” when in fact she was a little farm girl who grew up in Kentucky and knew the sacrifices a family needed to make. If it was putting a squirrel, chicken, rabbit or venison on the table, that is what they did. But it wasn’t a sacrifice to her. It was a thankful enjoyable dinner.

